Trying to be a good parent: a few ideas (part 1)
I was thinking of parenting, and of some of the things I try to do as a parent. For instance, I try ALWAYS (except in "emergencies") to pause for an instant before opening my mouth to admonish or redirect Littleman when he is doing something annoying. In that split instant, I review what he is doing and what I was about to say. Is he really hurting anything by doing what he is doing? Is it actually a problem that needs to be addressed, or does my reaction have more to do with my current mood than with his actions? 9 times out of 10, I'll either change how I'm approaching the situation or just decide to shut my mouth altogether and leave him alone. He needs to explore the world, be creative and be independant. I try to keep the list of real no-no's as short as possible, while maintaining his (and our) safety, fostering some good habits and reserving a little prerogative for my own sanity.
Thursday, March 23, 2006
Wednesday, March 15, 2006
the turning of the year
First of all, I would like to announce to the world that Mr Cheeks went to sleep at 9:30 last night, slept till 4:30, then after nursing and a diaper change slept till 8:30! OK OK, you might not think that's such big news but it sure is to me. :) He normally eats every three hours around the clock, so that is a vast improvement when it comes to my ability to get a good night's rest. I'm still tired- I have a lot of catching up to do- but it's good news.
Monday, March 13, 2006
the quiet corner
Step out the door- chatter, cooking noises, and cousins' laughter fade to a muted din, replaced by the rising tide of frogsong. Small warm body snuggled in my neck, we walk to the quiet corner. Dusky, cooling night breeze stirs the tiniest hint of spring perfume. There, dear- do you see the moon? Isn't she lovely. . . and there my love, do you see the trees sway? Can you hear the frogs calling? Settle on the bench, nurse to your heart's content. Watching the last light fade, there's a bat diving, darting by the lake. Ripples stir, daffodils nod, leaves whisper "Hush mama, hush- pay attention to this time, to this feeling, for it is precious beyond all comprehension. Do not lose it to trivialities." My baby sings to me.
Friday, March 10, 2006
a few (really) random thoughts
I was thinking yesterday about the difference between knowledge and ideas. Each needs the other to come to fruition. You may be very knowledgeable, but without good ideas you can't use that knowledge to move ahead. You might have fantastic ideas, but without the knowledge you need to make use of them, they cannot begin to bloom. So if you have one, pursue the other!
Friday, March 3, 2006
Fantasia, clean diapers and following directions
I'm sick again. Knock on wood, but the boys all seem OK- it's just me now. So that's the silver lining.